Humans have learned to tolerate a lot. We put up with, accept, take on, and are dragged down by people's behaviour, siyuations, unmet needs, crossed boundaries, unfinished business, frustrations, problems, and even our own behaviour.
In Coach World we call these
Tolerations (Copyright CoachU Inc).
Tolerations drain our energy. By putting up with them we are distracted from other important things that need our attention. It makes sense, then, to recognise our tolerations and deal with them. Sound easy? Well, sometimes it is, but other times not.
Why not try it?
- Take a couple of minutes to write down things that you know you're tolerating. Some things will come to mind easily, such as the clutter in your family room, the dishwasher that only ever gets emptied by you, or the lawn that needs mowing. Others will be harder to pinpoint, like having to do without 'me-time'.
- Divide your Tolerations into three headings: Home, Work/Study, and Family/Community. Try to list 10 items under each heading. Notice howsome headings are easier to fill than others?
- As you think of more items, add them to your list.
What will you do about this list of tolerations?
Why not work with a coach to address each and every one?
The Chocolate Souffle Coaches are ready to help you.
